Best dating site for single dads
Well, let me clarify: I have no shortage of “dates”. I have an outgoing personality and seem to be asked out a lot…
I guess I must be in reasonable shape because NOBODY can guess I’ve even had four kids, or that I’m even 34 (I get asked out by guys in their early 20s- I feel like I should read them a story and tuck them into bed… we usually go on a few dates, everything is going wonderful… I’m not talking about church bells, but just to an actual relationship. I am sick of being treated like a piece of ass, and treated like I must be desperate because I have kids.
I am not looking for a provider; I provide very well for myself.
I just want a friend and a companion and someone who I have chemistry and intellectual compatibility with.
I’ve been in a terrible relationship before and honestly now, I’d rather be alone than with the wrong guy.
I believe I have a lot to offer – I am caring, kind, warm, loyal and intelligent. I am not looking for a father for the boys; they have one.
Maybe your ex shares custody and gives you weekends off, but I think we can all agree that women with four kids have less available time than women without four kids.
And if the greatest gift a woman can give a man is her time, who are men going to gravitate towards – the harried mom who has to manage four lunches, babysitters, soccer practice, and bedtime routines – or the one who is blissfully unencumbered by such essential responsibilities?
At the time, when I was 33, I blamed her for this, thinking that if she liked me more, she’d make a greater effort. What I didn’t know then is that kids suck up every second of free time you’ve got, and that you have to work extra hard to create me-time, much less couple-time.
Dear Christina, Before I give you the pep talk you need, let me first acknowledge the painful truths that you’ve eloquently outlined above. Having four kids under the age of 9 is a huge handicap.
I’d try to spin it in a slightly more positive way, but I can’t.
Ultimately, all I wanted from that single mom was to hook up, because that’s all I felt she could give me.
Whether it’s fair or not is debatable, but that’s how I felt at the time.
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